Self-Esteem & Identity Counselling in Ontario
Self-esteem and identity counselling offers space to explore self-doubt, expectations and belonging. You can reflect on your values, relationships and roles at your own pace, without needing to have yourself figured out.
Virtual appointments across Ontario.
Book a free consultationWhen your own voice
gets hard to hear.
You might question your decisions, compare yourself with others, or feel that being accepted depends on getting everything right.
Self-esteem is connected to how you see and value yourself. Criticism, relationships, and life experiences can influence that view; questioning your worth can make everyday choices feel harder.
Questions of identity may involve values, culture, relationships, roles, or belonging. Exploring who you are is not, in itself, a problem that needs to be fixed.
Therapy offers room to consider the stories you have learned about yourself and which ones still fit. You do not need a settled answer about who you are before beginning.
Read the NHS guide to low self-esteemRelated reading: Why do I feel guilty saying no?
Meet yourself
with more curiosity.
We take time to understand your experience, including the relationships and environments around you. Your values and goals help shape the work.
Explore individual therapy and your therapists
Shannon Gagnon — Registered Social Worker. Children, teens, adults, couples & families. Book with Shannon.
Jessica Maronski — Registered Psychotherapist. Individuals aged 15+, couples & families. Book with Jessica.
Notice the voice of self-criticism.
Explore the expectations you hold yourself to and where they may have come from. Consider how you respond to mistakes, uncertainty, or disappointment.
Make room for your own values.
Reflect on what matters to you beyond approval or comparison. There is space to explore interests, identities, and roles without being rushed into a label.
Explore needs and boundaries.
Notice where you say yes out of pressure or make yourself smaller to keep the peace. Practise expressing preferences and needs in ways that fit your circumstances.
Try choices that feel like yours.
Consider manageable steps toward the relationships and activities you value. Reflect on what you learn, with room to adjust along the way.
Questions about self-esteem & identity
A few answers to help you consider the next step, at your own pace.
Do I need to know exactly what I want to change?
No. You can begin with self-doubt, feeling disconnected from yourself, or a question that is hard to put into words. You do not need to arrive feeling positive about yourself or know exactly what you want to change. We can take time to understand what you would like support with.
Can we talk about identity and belonging?
Yes. You can bring questions about values, culture, roles, relationships, or belonging. You set the terms for how you describe yourself, and we can discuss the therapist’s experience with what you want to explore.
Is this about becoming more outgoing?
Your goals do not have to involve changing your personality. The work might focus on self-understanding, boundaries, or feeling more able to make choices that reflect what matters to you.
Can self-esteem overlap with other concerns?
You can bring overlapping experiences, including relationship difficulties, anxiety, or low mood. We will discuss your circumstances and consider an approach that fits the whole picture.
Is virtual support available in Ontario?
Yes. Book a free 15–20 minute phone consultation through Jane to ask about therapist fit, fees, availability, and virtual appointments across Ontario.
You can begin without having yourself figured out.
Bring the questions, doubts, or hopes that feel most present. A brief consultation is a place to ask about support and explore the fit.
What you can expect:
- A free 15–20 minute phone consultation
- Virtual appointments from anywhere in Ontario
- Care from regulated mental health professionals
- We aim to respond to new inquiries within 24 hours
booking with
Choose a therapist and view appointment options in Jane. Cancellation terms are available when you book.